The Silver Lining of a Cancer Diagnosis

It has been said, "every cloud has a silver lining.” It is difficult to imagine how having a diagnosis of cancer could have a bright side.

But this is what cancer has taught and/or reinforced in me, so that I can continue to live a meaningful life:

1.    My life as I know it will never be the same. Even if I am one of the lucky ones, who finds myself in remission or cured, the perpetual cloud over my head may creep back into my life wondering if cancer will return. I am only human.

2.    Live one day at a time. I wake up each morning and I shout to myself, “Thank you God for this beautiful day!” It is important that I live in the here and now, because that allows me to live each moment, smell each flower, kiss the cheeks of my grandchildren, hug each friend, stroke my husband’s face, and find joy in just being. There is something so joyful about JUST BEING.

3.    Thoughts lead to actions. The cancer journey and treatments often cause apprehensive or fearful thoughts to enter my mind. I have to give the thoughts that enter my head a facelift. I yell, “STOP!” in my head. “I am going to be okay.” I have to avoid getting stuck in a self-fulfilling prophecy by acknowledging the apprehension, but doing the treatment or procedure anyway.

4.    Priorities may change. God, people, and relationships are my priorities. You learn who is and is not important in your life. Money is important for food, shelter, and basic necessities. Anything extra is icing on the cake.  It is a means to an end. It gives you freedom to travel, to explore your hobbies, to make your society better. You can’t take it with you. And all that “stuff” you have… You can’t take that with you either.

5.    Do what brings you joy. Art, writing, fishing, and healthy relationships give me joy.

6.    You suddenly see the big picture of your life. Yes, it is like a fast-forward film. Do you have regrets? Did you live your life with passion, gratitude and love? Would you rearrange your life? What would you change? Have you put off doing something because you thought you had so much time to do it later? What is holding you back from living the life you deserve?

7.    We need each other. As long as I know I am not alone in my journey, I can endure. That means that my medical team, my friends, my family, my online community, my church group, and my cancer support group are integral components of my living a meaningful life.

8.    Complementary treatments (reflexology, acupuncture, myofacial release, meditation, counseling, etc.) have helped me significantly manage chronic stress and coping strategies, and improve the quality of my life. Chronic stress can affect an already compromised immune system.

9.    And most importantly, I have learned to live my life with gratitude and love.

P.S.: The future of cancer care

Cancer care should not end when you are pronounced to be in remission or sent home after a series of radiation treatments. When someone undergoes orthopedic surgery or has a heart attack, there is a recognized rehab system in place to help with recovery for those survivors of injuries and serious illnesses. Oncologists do not usually offer cancer treatment aftercare services. Standard cancer treatments are extremely toxic and often cause physical and mental problems that hinder normal daily lives, such as fatigue, pain, cognitive impairment, sleep difficulties, anxiety and depression. The diagnosis of cancer alone can prompt these difficulties.

Investing in the rehabilitation of cancer patients may actually help them survive longer and enjoy a better quality of life. My hematologist/oncologist Dr. Robin Obenchain in Tempe, Arizona embraces the concept of a follow-up cancer care plan in her medical practice. She offers the services of a palliative care nurse Bonnie Morgan. Addressing the spiritual, mental, physical, and emotional health of the cancer patient in follow-up care honors the patient with dignity. Thank you, Dr. Robin.